The Healthy Habits of the Happily Attached: The 4 Keys to Creating Secure Attachment

Digital Course with New York Times Bestselling Author Katherine Woodward Thomas

Now Available on Demand

Shift the unhealthy, unconscious beliefs you’ve been operating from that have been wreaking havoc with your love life to create — and sustain — happy, life-affirming and count-on-able relationships.

Hi, I’m Katherine.

Over the past two decades, I’ve had the privilege of coaching, mentoring, and teaching hundreds of thousands of people how to create and maintain happy, healthy relationships.

Many of my amazing students were people who, like you, were familiar with the popular concept of attachment styles as a way to describe how we all create and sustain (or don’t!) close relationships.

Formed in reaction to what happened or didn’t happen to you at the beginning of your life, your attachment style has been playing out in all of your adult relationships, often in heart-wrenching and deeply discouraging ways.

The two attachment styles that tend to cause the most heartache are the Avoidant (or “Love Avoidant,”) and Insecure/Anxious (or “Love Addict”) types.

No matter how badly you might want to have loving relationships that serve as a foundation for you to create a happy life, many of us are unknowingly holding onto assumptions about ourselves, others and love that are inconsistent with manifesting and sustaining well-being in love.

The truth is, just knowing what your attachment style isn’t enough.

Your relational patterns will not change until you identify and shift the limiting beliefs that you formed in childhood in response to relational trauma at their core — and discover new ways of relating to yourself and others that support you to find and keep love.

Here’s the great news!

Your attachment style is not fixed.

You have the power to evolve beyond the dysfunction you created in response to painful past experiences — by awakening to a new sense of Self, and learning a few simple relational habits of those who have what we call a Secure attachment style.

Those who have Secure Attachment have much more satisfying and stable unions. For them, love and closeness gets better and more beautiful with each passing year, and serves as a foundation for them to live their best lives.

After many years of studying those whose relationships are not only happy and healthy, but also flourish over time, I’ve found there are several key relational habits that those with Secure Attachment consistently demonstrate -- that people with Insecure/Anxious or Avoidant attachment styles just don’t do.

Thankfully, these healthy habits are highly learnable.

I created an online course to help you shift into a healthier place within yourself from which to generate your connections. I will walk you through each step of how you can begin having healthier, happier, more stable and loving connections as your new norm.


In this digital course with Katherine, you will:

  • Identify your pervasive Attachment Style and begin emulating those who know how to create happy, healthy and long-lasting love
  • Become empowered to realize the higher potentials all of your relationships hold for happiness, intimacy, and wellbeing
  • Fortify and strengthen all of your current connections — with friends, loved ones, family members, and more
  • Work with your own repetitive patterns to create a future that’s different from your past
  • Awaken your power to grow beyond what happened in your childhood home to create the kinds of connections you long for and deserve
  • Liberate your entire lineage from painful and repetitive relational patterns that no longer serve you or anyone else in your family
  • Stop unnecessary heartaches and disappointments in love before they happen
  • Set your relationships up to win by practicing the healthy habits that build trust and generate strong, solid love as the foundation of your life

Here’s what you can expect from this transformative course:

Sessions 1 & 2:
Understanding Your Attachment Style & the Consciousness that Causes It

Friday March 24: 12-3pm Pacific
Saturday March 25: 9am-12pm & 2-5pm Pacific

In these opening sessions, you’ll identify your Attachment Style and gain clarity on why stability and longevity in love has been challenging for you.

You will also identify and release the specific core beliefs that have been at the heart of these unhealthy habits, and learn how to transform and evolve beyond them.

So much about your current attachment style is unconscious and primitive — it’s reactive and automatic, like a breath you take without even thinking...

Katherine will help you understand the core consciousnesses from which you’ve habitually generated your connections and wake you up to a newer – and truer – story! One that will set you free to create happier, healthier love that can last over time.

Sessions 3-6:
The 4 Keys to Creating Happy, Healthy & Secure Attachment

Tuesday March 28: 12-2pm Pacific
Thursday March 30: 12-2pm Pacific
Tuesday April 4: 12-2pm Pacific
Thursday April 6: 12-2pm Pacific

Over the course of four (4) 2-hour classroom sessions with Katherine, you’ll learn the secrets to happy, long-lasting and resilient relationships as we discover and adopt the 4 key relational habits of those who have Secure Attachment.

Most teachings will tell you that if you have an Avoidant or Anxious Attachment Style, you’ll need to get into an intimate relationship with someone who has a Secure Attachment style in order to evolve beyond it. While it’s true that being with a person who has a healthy attitude towards closeness is healing and helpful, just waiting and hoping that fate will smile on us by bringing someone with secure attachment into our lives seems like a long shot.

The truth is, you have the power right now to begin learning and emulating the core relational habits of those who were raised with two perfect parents and in ideal conditions. Those who feel organically safe to love another human being fully without all of the push-pull, up-down craziness that comes with untransformed attachment wounds.

Once you learn these healthy habits, your relationships will not only stabilize but begin bringing out the highest and best of who you are and who you came here to be.

Session 7:
Integration & Completion

Saturday April 8: 9am-12pm Pacific

In the final session, we’ll review each of the 4 Healthy Habits and continue to deepen your integration and embodiment of them. By deepening your learning, you’ll gain the clarity and confidence needed to create and sustain happy, healthy, count-on-able relationships in all areas of your life.

What Your Journey to Secure Attachment Will Look Like:

You will begin by:

  • Delving deep to understand the somatically-based automatic stories you tell yourself — for example, “I’m not safe,” “No one likes me,” or “I’m not a desirable partner”
  • Exploring why the secret ingredient to evolving is strengthening your relationship with yourself — and how it creates the foundation for transforming your relationships with others
  • Naming the projections you’ve been putting onto other people in your life
  • Being liberated from the beliefs about yourself, others and love that have been destabilizing and doing harm to  your love life 
  • Awakening to the truth of your value and power to create rich and rewarding relationships that can stand the test of time
  • Slowing down toxic reactivity and learn instead to respond to breakdowns in generative ways that will build your relationship up rather than tear it down in times of turmoil

Your transformation continues as you:

  • Discover the key relational habits that can create happy, healthy, robust relationships that can last over time
  • Learn the true meaning of empathy — and why simply feeling compassion for someone else is not enough to realize authentic togetherness and deeply bonded closeness
  • Learn to listen in a way that generates an ample amount of affinity and love between yourself and others
  • Find out how to dissolve your partner’s festering resentments in a way that disappears all toxic emotional residue between you
  • Discover the potent practice that brings true completion to past mistakes and leaves you both free to love even more deeply moving forward
  • Awaken to your power to complete resentments, hurt feelings and damaging mistakes in a way that restores wellbeing and happiness to your relationship
  • Discover how to evolve beyond old painful patterns by identifying those simple skills that can generate more fulfilling experiences in love
  • Explore the one magical practice that will instantly transform your hurt and disappointment into an opportunity to deepen the bond between you

Katherine will be right there with you as you evolve your ways of creating relationships to emulate those who grew up in secure and happy homes. You’ll be free to start experiencing happier and healthier connections with those who matter most immediately!

Materials & Resources

You’ll receive exclusive access to:

Again, don’t worry if you can’t be there live — all sessions are recorded so you can catch up anytime! You’ll receive lifetime access to streaming video recordings of each teaching session. You can refer to these sessions time and again to capture Katherine’s teachings at a time and pace that works for your schedule. 

Early Registration Bonus:
Live C.L.E.A.N. Love Workshop

Register for the course before 11:59pm Pacific on February 27 to receive exclusive access to
Katherine’s LIVE C.L.E.A.N. Love Workshop on March 18.

What is C.L.E.A.N. Love?

We all know what we don’t want more of… co-dependent relationships, the giving away of our power, the painful confusion of push-pull dynamics, getting involved with narcissists or dating those who don’t value or believe in us.

But do you know what you do want? And have a clear vision of what that looks like?

Do you know what it will require of you to sustain deep happiness in love?

Come discover the 5 characteristics of what we call C.L.E.A.N. love —
love that is committed, kind, long-lasting and healthy.

While most of us look to the past to try to figure out why we are the way we are, few of us are wise enough to be curious about, and to consciously cultivate the qualities and characteristics of true love.

Come discover how much power you are holding to create happy, healthy love and awaken your abilities to manifest and sustain the deep love your heart is hungry for.

In this new, LIVE 2-hour workshop, you will:

  • Learn the 5 most important qualities of happy, healthy love  and what C.L.E.A.N. Love stands for!  to create long-lasting relationships that thrive over time;
  • Discover your power to heal and transform all of your most important relationships; and
  • Find out the most generative practice that can keep your love growing and deepening through even the most challenging of circumstances.

PLUS! Use code HappyLove100 at check out for
$100 off if you register by Sunday, October 17.

When you register by Thursday, October 7,
you’ll receive this bonus gift:

You’ll also receive this bonus class:

True Love Awakening: Unleashing Your True Self to Flourish in Love, Life & Livelihood

On-demand Workshop with Katherine Woodward Thomas

Katherine will reveal the reason people repeat painful patterns in the areas they care about the most and how they can finally stop doing this.

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Register by 11:59pm PST on October 1 to receive:

Bonus Video Workshop with Dr. Laura Berman Healing Sexual Shame & Celebrating Your Sexual Self

Dr. Laura Berman is a sex, love, and relationship specialist, showing people how to love and be loved better. She is a New York Times bestselling author of Quantum Love, author of eight additional books on love and sex, an award-winning radio show and television personality, host of The Language of Love podcast, and her own show In the Bedroom with Dr. Laura Berman on OWN Network.

In this pre-recorded video workshop, Laura will share about what healthy sexuality really means, and how it can change your life. We will explore how meeting in the quantum field can create shared intimacy and sexuality, and how to cultivate your own true sexual awareness.

Healthy Habits of the Happily Attached
How to Evolve Your Attachment Style

Register by 11:59pm PST on October 14 to join us for this LIVE BONUS WORKSHOP with Katherine Woodward Thomas

Good news! Your Attachment style is not fixed. Join Katherine for a brand new LIVE workshop as she teaches you how to shift into a healthier place within yourself from which to create happy, healthy love and begin making more satisfying, stable and loving connections your new norm.

In this 2-hour LIVE Workshop, you will:

  • Identify your Attachment Style and begin emulating those who have Secure attachment and who intuitively create happiness and healthy i their close relationships
  • Awaken your power to grow beyond what happened in your childhood home to create the kinds of connections you long for and deserve
  • Stop unnecessary heartaches and disappointments in love before they happen
  • Set your relationships up to win by practicing the healthy habits that build trust and generate strong, solid love as the foundation of your life.

Evolving Beyond Codependency: The Keys to Creating Healthy Interdependent Relationships

Register by 11:59pm PST on October 6 to receive this Video Teaching & Worksheet from Katherine Woodward Thomas

Katherine will take you on a deep dive to identify the erroneous underlying beliefs that drive codependent behaviors and help you to weed out this disempowered dynamic at its core.

You’ll learn:

  • what codependency is
  • how it’s been undermining your relationships, and
  • the precise pathway beyond it.

You can graduate from your painful relational patterns and create happier, healthier interdependent relationships that set you up to flourish and thrive in life and love.

Register by 11:59pm PST on September 27 to receive:

Manifesting Love Private Coaching Session

Give yourself the gift of working with one of Katherine’s Certified Calling in “The One” Coaches. Register now and receive a 30-minute Private Coaching Session that can be used at any point during the Book Study course to deepen and accelerate your integration of the Calling in “The One” teachings.


The World’s Top Thought Leaders
Share Their Gratitude for Katherine's Work

Marianne Williamson

#1 New York Times bestselling author,
spiritual teacher, and world-renowned lecturer

“There are people in all our lives to whom we listen with our ears perked, and for me, Katherine Woodward Thomas is such a person. Katherine is a woman I look to for wisdom and counsel. How wonderful that her advice is available to all.”

Gabrielle Bernstein

New York Times bestselling author
of Miracles Now

“Katherine is my relationship guru. Her wisdom and guidance helped me clear all blocks to romantic freedom.”

Alanis Morissette

Multiple-time Grammy winning

“Katherine’s grounded and fierce tenderness has been an inspiring force for me for years. She is a visionary whose passion for both personal and global fulfillment is felt throughout her writing, presence and teachings. I am so grateful for her.”

Dr. Jean Houston

Prolific writer and author of 27 books including A Mythic Life: Learning to Live Our Greater Story and The Wizard of Us: Transformational Lessons From Oz

“Katherine Woodward Thomas is a master teacher and one of the great pioneers who is offering new perspectives, skills and tools that will lead us into the depths of authentic loving, and to the true potency and power of relationship.”

About Katherine

Katherine Woodward Thomas, M.A., MFT is the New York Times Bestselling Author of Calling in “The One:” 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life and Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After, which inspired the conscious breakup of Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin, and launched a movement towards kinder, more honorable breakups and divorce.

Katherine is an award-winning licensed marriage and family therapist, and teacher to hundreds of thousands in her virtual and in-person learning communities, as well as a featured teacher on the internally-renowned online transformational learning giant, Mindvalley. To date, she’s trained and certified hundreds to be Calling in “The One” Coaches and Conscious Uncoupling Coaches.

She is also a Billboard Charting jazz singer whose album, Lucky in Love that was co-written and co-produced with the Brothers Koren went to #1 on the iTunes jazz charts in 2019.

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